When I met that old aquantance Janne last year I told him what I've been up to since my awakening 2006 (mostly). Which is why his lies about me is blatant, and everyone believing them are nuts. Of course I'm "obsessed" now!!!! That is called "being in love". If he ghosts his slapper from the suburbs without any explaination and sending out people to threaten her if she ever tries to contact him - for no reason - and ignores her and lies about her... Will she just say "oh, I'm over him - care face"??? I doubt it. People lack EMPATHY, which is the ability to understand OTHER peoples reactions and emotions. It's NOT nuts to be in shock and awe when someone being so smithen by you, promising to NEVER go away, and being so happy to have you telling you he wants you as a girlfriend, then suddenly vanishing and turning into a MONSTER.
I had to experience it to finally understand that all his weird behavior from the past - flipping from acting totally in love with me, making huge promises, to vanishing - was not by accident. He finds great pleasure in luring women to LOVE him totally, then humiliate them and treat them like nothing. So his ex-wife was right, when she told me he does not like me. Yes, he obviusly lied to me last fall when he promised me he does not hate me. You have to totally hate someone to do this to another human being. Tricking you to fall in love, by making it out you are in love, flattering alot, charming, bragging to make yourself sound good enough, making promises how well you will take care of the other, and so on. And then totally have ZERO feelings and smearing the one you've lifted up and letting the one longing for you (like there is no purpose in life without him) know that she will NEVER EVER see him again! It's so cruel. It's pure EVIL.
His humiliation has been about making it out as if I've been obsessing about him since 2001. That is when he lied to me he was to take care of me, if I only divorced. His friends don't care he's a liar. They don't care he's a woman abuser. They are totally smithen by him. Like CULT MEMBERS. I know, cause I used to be married to one. We did not divorce cause I believed Janne would come running for me, but cause he was sending out flying monkeys torturing his old friend, and he wanted nothing to do with Janne and was mad at me for giving him second chance. Well, he had at first been contemplating forgiving Janne, but after he ghosted me in the most cruel way possible he just got angry at him. He comforted me when I cried for months, devestated, that Janne had lied again.
Janne swears he's been ignoring me cause it's been too painful for him to have anything to do with me. And he promises he will be in contact soon. He also tells me he will come home to me soon, when my husband is at work far away. Of course, Janne doing this is nothing his friends would even acknowledge or believe, as he's told everyone I'm a liar and obsessing with him and making up stories, since I'm insane. I know this as Janne the week after making this phone call tells all those lies to my husband. And I know this as Jane's brother phoned me up in December warning me about the horrific things Janne says about me. Since Jane backed up the lies and lied to cover them her brother soon also believed the lies and stabbed me in the back. I have a hard time trusting people, and his betrayal came when I had started to trust him. Janne's betrayal came when I had given all my trust and love to him.
So no - I am not obsessing cause I'm mentally ill. I'm trying to heal my broken heart and my crushed trust for someone I totally love. I still love him and I don't know how long it will take to stop being in love with him. I miss him every day, every night and I dream about him alot. I wish he'd been for real and that I would had had love of that kind in my life. The kind you have as a woman with a man who finds you utterly adorable and very attractive. He made me feel that way and then he changed and all of that was gone. Everything I do now is filthy and stupid and I feel as if he does not understand me or appreciate me, which were reasons I fell for him. He looked at me as if I was the most beautiful woman on earth. He spoke to me as if he adored everything about me and admired my abilities and qualities. He totally lifted me up, just to put me down in the most horrific way. All of which I know are typical narcopathic tricks to hurt as much as possible someone. The way of EVIL.
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